with Coaching Cape Town
Transform Your Journey, One Goal at a Time
What is at the top of your mind right now?
What is the state of your heart today?
These are two “starter” questions I often use to help us get straight to the heart of what matters to you at this moment. Whether facing a personal crisis, struggling with your career, or feeling lost in your relationships, we can explore the issues that weigh most heavily on you and plot the way forward.
Life coaching is all about reflecting on your life—where it stands, where it is going, where you want it to go, what you want from it, what you want to spend your time on, and with whom you want to live it. Determining exactly what you want and need is important for your health, well-being, and success.
Life coaching is not only for solving problems. It can also help prevent future difficulties and train you to deal with anything that might come your way.
Coaching is an interactive activity that involves lots of homework and self-discovery. This can be difficult for some people, but it is worth it in the end!
As an experienced life coach in Durbanville, I have worked with diverse clients requiring my services for various reasons.
I am qualified in dealing with everyday struggles such as:
⚑ Work-life balance
⚑ Marriage or relationship difficulties
⚑ Stress management
⚑ Seeking meaning in life/ creating new goals
⚑ Conflict management
⚑ Anger management
⚑ Career guidance
⚑ Coping with loss
⚑ Major life transitions, such as the arrival of a new baby, retirement, moving, an empty nest, etc.
Modern-day women’s struggle to balance work, life, and family.
I am especially mindful of the changing roles of women in our society, both at home and in the workplace. Therefore, I also specialise in helping working mothers adjust to various roles, such as being a professional and a mother.
Read how Rudolph van Schoor’s expert coaching has empowered individuals to achieve their goals and overcome challenges. Explore their stories and see the transformation for yourself.
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My mission is to help you ask the right questions and hear your own voice. I facilitate your discovery of the direction and balance you need to reach a state of holistic well-being.
I work from a three-phase frame work focussing on congruence, competence and flourishing. This means I help you align all areas of your life with your core values and needs, build the strengths you require to conquer challenges, and, ultimately, prosper.
I will happily assist with any issues you are facing or guidance you seek, whether personally or professionally.
Therapy and counselling focus on a person’s healing, while coaching is about enhancing performance.
Both will address your challenges, but coaching tends to be more proactive than counselling, which deals with problems reactively.
Coaching is an excellent complementary service to counselling. Many people who have undergone psychological counselling experience the need for a structured way to apply all the wisdom they have accumulated. They want to rebuild their lives and figure out their goals and strategies for achieving them.
If you believe that counselling is what you need at this time, please view my counselling services.
In your 20s and 30s, you are building the foundation of your future, which could entail ample pressure and confusion. This stage is full of life-defining decisions, from relationships to career building. While you might feel strong and independent, the uncertainty can weigh on you. Some common struggles at this stage are:
⚑ “Should I stay with my partner, or is this relationship holding me back?”
You might be at a crossroads, unsure whether the relationship you are in is the right one. Deciding whether to commit or walk away can be a huge emotional burden.
⚑ “Am I on the right career path, or should I be doing something else?”
It is common to question whether the job or degree you pursue will bring long-term fulfilment. You may worry that you are wasting time or making the wrong choices.
⚑ “I just got out of an abusive or toxic relationship. How do I recover and move on?”
Picking up the pieces after a broken relationship can feel overwhelming. You might be struggling to regain your self-confidence and sense of direction.
⚑ “I want work-life balance, but where do I start?”
Perhaps you work long hours, hustling to get ahead in your career, but your personal life is suffering. Finding balance can feel impossible when it seems your professional life demands all your energy.
During this phase, life coaching helps you make sense of complex emotions and decisions.
We focus on building competence—the skills you need to manage relationships, career decisions, and personal development while ensuring that your choices are congruent with your true self. Coaching at this stage sets you up for a flourishing future, guiding you to create a life that is both successful and fulfilling.
By your 30s and 40s, life can feel like a constant balancing act. You may have a successful career, a family, and personal responsibilities pulling you in different directions. You feel the weight of expectations to “do it all”, but often at the cost of your own well-being. The strain of trying to live up to these demands can lead to questions like:
⚑ “How do I avoid burnout while trying to be a top performer at work and a good parent and partner?”Balancing high demands at work and home can make you feel like you are constantly falling short somewhere. The fear of burnout is real and can affect your ability to show up for those who need you.
⚑ “I’ve done everything I was supposed to—built a career, started a family—so why do I still feel so empty?”You checked off all the traditional markers of “success”, but something feels amiss. You might be struggling with feelings of disconnection, questioning your purpose and what truly makes you happy.
⚑ “My toxic marriage is draining me. How do I get out without destroying everything?”If you are in a damaging relationship, you may feel trapped—fearful of what will happen if you leave but knowing you cannot stay. You feel stuck in an endless cycle of stress, anger, or sadness.
⚑ “My partner and I keep fighting, and I don’t feel like myself anymore. How do I fix this?”Conflict at home can spill over into every part of your life. You may feel constantly on edge and lose your sense of self.
⚑ “I just had a health scare—what needs to change?”A sudden health issue can force you to reevaluate everything. You may feel fear, guilt, or regret about how you have lived so far and be unsure about the steps to move forward.
At this stage, coaching focuses on finding balance and helping you rediscover yourself.
We work on strengthening your competence in managing stress, relationships, and career challenges, ensuring that your decisions are congruent with who you truly are and what you need to thrive. Coaching at this stage is about helping you flourish—not just in your career, but in your personal life, your health, and your emotional well-being.
In your 40s and 50s, you may have achieved many of your life’s goals—career, family, financial stability—but that does not always lead to the happiness you expected. Or perhaps life has not worked out like you have hoped. In fact, many people find themselves at a crossroads, questioning their next steps and feeling unsettled.
Common struggles at this stage include:
⚑ “I have everything I thought I wanted—career, family, success—but why am I still not happy?”You may feel like you should be content, but there is an emptiness you cannot explain. This can lead to confusion and self-doubt as you wonder if you have pursued the wrong goals.
⚑ “I married a narcissist when I was young. How do I escape this marriage?”If you are in a relationship where emotional abuse or manipulation is present, leaving can feel overwhelming. You may worry about the impact on your family, financial security, or sense of identity.
⚑ “Is it too late to start my own business, switch careers, or move abroad?”You might have an exciting business idea or dream of moving your family to a new country, but fear is holding you back. You are concerned about uprooting your life and wondering if you missed your chance for a fresh start.
⚑ “For some reason, I’m feeling overwhelmed at work, disconnected at home, and I’m not showing up for my children like I want to. What’s wrong with me?”You may be juggling a successful career and a family but still feel like you are failing somewhere. This stage is often filled with the pressure to be perfect in all areas, leading to feelings of guilt, stress, and overwhelm.
Life coaching at this stage focuses on helping you redefine success and align it with your internal values.
We explore how to reconnect with your sense of purpose and address the competence needed to navigate significant life changes—whether leaving a toxic relationship, shifting careers, or pursuing a lifelong dream. We work together to create congruence between your external achievements and your happiness, ensuring you flourish in this new chapter of life.
